May 9, 2025 –
Written by NOCO Humane volunteer, Stephanie Ray
We all love spending time with our pets – whether cuddled up on the couch, on an epic hike, or hanging out at your favorite brewery. But eventually, we all must wave goodbye as we leave our pets at home to head to work, run errands, or enjoy a meal out. For some pets, this time alone can be particularly stressful. If your furry friend seems anxious every time you head out the door, they may be experiencing separation anxiety. The good news is that there are plenty of ways you can help them feel better when you’re not around.
What Is Separation Anxiety, Anyway?
Separation anxiety happens when a pet feels distressed when they’re separated from their owner or family. It’s not just a little “I miss you” moment—it’s an intense fear that can make your pet feel completely overwhelmed when you leave. While dogs are the most common sufferers, cats and other pets can experience separation anxiety, too.
This condition can develop at any time in a pet’s life, but it’s often triggered by changes in their routine—like a new work schedule, moving to a new home, or even the addition of a new family member. For some pets, it can start when they’re very young or after a stressful experience like being abandoned or rehomed.
Why Do Pets Get Separation Anxiety?
It’s not always easy to pinpoint the exact cause, but there are a few things that can contribute to separation anxiety:
- Past experiences: If your pet has been through tough experiences like being abandoned or rehomed, they might develop anxiety about being left alone again.
- Change in routine: Pets thrive on consistency, and any sudden changes (like new work hours, a move, or a change in household dynamics) can shake them up and cause stress.
- Over-attachment: Some pets are just super attached to their humans (we’re looking at you, “velcro dogs”!). These pets may have a harder time being alone.
- Genetics: Certain breeds and personalities can be more prone to anxiety.
How to Tell if Your Pet Has Separation Anxiety
Pets can’t exactly tell us how they’re feeling, but there are some telltale signs of separation anxiety. If your pet is showing any of these behaviors, they may be struggling when you leave:
- Barking or howling: Especially if it’s excessive or goes on for long periods when you’re not home.
- Destructive behavior: Is your pet chewing on furniture, scratching doors, or tearing up things when you’re away? This can be a sign of anxiety.
- Restlessness or pacing: Some pets will walk around aimlessly or seem unable to settle down when they sense you’re getting ready to leave.
- Accidents indoors: Even if your pet is usually house-trained, they may have accidents inside when they’re feeling anxious.
- Physical signs: Excessive drooling, panting, or other signs of distress can also point to separation anxiety.
What You Can Do to Help Your Pet
The good news is that there’s a lot you can do to help your pet feel more at ease when you’re not around! Here are a few tips that might make a big difference:
- Create a cozy, safe space: Set up a special place where your pet can feel secure when you’re gone. A comfy bed, their favorite toys, and maybe even an item of your clothing with your scent on it can help them feel more relaxed.
- Gradual goodbyes: Start practicing short departures—leave for just a few minutes and then gradually increase the time you’re gone. This helps your pet get used to the idea that you’ll always come back!
- Distraction is key: Give your pet something to do while you’re gone! Puzzle toys, treat-dispensing toys, or a tasty chew can keep them distracted and make alone time more enjoyable. Separation anxiety typically peaks within the first 20 minutes of being left alone – providing an activity or distraction that keeps their focus during this time can help set them up for success for the rest of your time away. Check out our blog on using Kongs as enrichment.
- Keep a routine: Pets love routine. Try to keep feeding times, walks, and play sessions on a regular schedule to give your pet a sense of stability.
- Consider professional help: If your pet’s separation anxiety is severe, don’t hesitate to reach out to your veterinarian or a trainer. In some cases, they may suggest behavior therapy or medication to help ease your pet’s stress.
Dealing with separation anxiety can be tough for both you and your pet, but with some patience and understanding, you can help your furry friend feel more comfortable when you’re not around. After all, they just want to feel safe and loved—and with a little support, they’ll learn that being alone doesn’t mean they’re being abandoned. Here’s to happier, more relaxed pets—and plenty of guilt-free time away!
